When I was in school, one of my teachers used to say, "You should listen more than you speak."
This set up a conflict in my mind, as the teacher himself would start speaking the moment he entered the class and would never listen to anything we said. The conflict became sharper when one day, in a moment of deep rumination induced by the drone of my Social Studies teacher, my Inner Voice quietly confronted my tender mind with the question, "If God wanted us to speak less and listen more, why would He provide only two small holes on the sides of the head for hearing and a large gaping cavern in the front for letting off steam?" Had God intended more listening and less speaking, He could have reversed the functions of these two and assigned the role of hearing to the mouth and that of speaking to the ears. In fact the two holes on the sides speaking together could produce a stereophonic effect that appealed to your interlocutor's attentive mouth with better Dolby Effect than that of a top-class theatre!
The 'Listen-more Speak-less' theory is not suppourted by Nature, which believes in producing more than is required. Nature goes by the Principle of Wastage, which states that "A lot of what comes into existence shall perish". Therefore, Nature enunciated the Principle of Overproduction which states, "Keep producing because thou dost not know how much shall survive." To integrate these two principles into an overarching theory called The Theory of Continuity, Nature enunciated the third principle called the Principle of Mutual Killing, according to which "Those among the overproduced who do not perish shall kill each other till the optimum number survives." It is this principle that Darwin stated somewhat differently as the principle of Survival of the Fittest.
So, Dear Reader, Nature following her own principles created a huge mouth, hundreds of times bigger than the holes called ears, so that the mouth could overproduce sounds many of which would perish and many killed by the sounds produced by other mouths. Finally, a few would survive and reach some ear somewhere.
Here again the principles of Nature are very clearly defined. The Survival of the Fittest implies that species that are strong will survive even if they produce less of their progeny. Following this principle the elephants and the lions produce far fewer offspring than the bacteria and other smaller and weaker creatures. The same principle applies to speech. Words produced by mouths incapable of generating anything but lifeless jabbery die as soon as they leave the mouth of the speaker, while there are some whose words have the strength of the elephant. These mouths are able to survive even by producing a few words from time to time.
If one were to take a count of how many times the request "Please Listen!" is made in contrast with the request "Please Speak!' one would be overawed by the totally unequal comparison. That is because speaking is a natural instinct the way listening is not. Listening requires disciplining of the mind to focus on what the other is saying, while speaking is just the simple act of opening a flood gate. If fact, if you attend any of 'The Art of Speaking' courses, you will find that it is a misnomer for 'The Art of Making Others Listen' course. A lot of the emphasis in such courses is on 'What the Listener Wants', 'How to Rivet his Attention', 'How to Keep your Audience Awake' etc.
So, don't feel defensive if you often find yourself speakin' and speakin' and speakin'. By doing so you are only obeying the laws of Mother Nature. Speak on as long as Mother Nature inspires you and the mouth cooperates. Don't bother whether someone is listening because as Charles Darwin might have put it, 'the word that has power will find its listener'.
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